In your life, there will come a time when you have to admit a few things to yourself...if you dare.
The sheer force of your will is not enough to cause life around you to always be as you think it should be or in your comfort zone. You can only do what YOU can do in situations, both in your life or in events that concern you. Ultimately you cannot make anyone else do the things you think they should or the things you need for them to do for your peace of mind. You cannot control everything around you all the time. There will be situations in which you have to trust enough and go with your gut feeling and/or let someone else take the lead, even if you believe it's not the shortest path to where you need to go or you can't see the outcome from the beginning. You WILL fail from time to time. Deal with it and learn to do it gracefully when needed. If you don't fail, at least now and then, it stands to reason you're not playing fair somewhere along the line.
Even someone that loves you or that you love with all your heart, will at times disappoint or hurt you. It's up to you to decide what you do about it and whether the hurt is a temporary and sometimes necessary curve in the journey, or whether it's a detour that won't ever lead to where you want to be. If the person is truly important to you and your life, weigh these choices carefully before you act. Some bridges can never be recrossed once they are traveled over. There will be times though, when enough is enough. Learn to tell the difference.
Not every day will be a good one. Some days will swing from the highest highs to the lowest lows with remarkable speed simply because of an unexpected phrase or thoughtless comment expressed from someone you trust, love or depend on. These comments are probably not thought twice about, much less ever meant to upset you. Try to remember that hurt feelings are not fatal.
Remember when someone acts in ways that confound or confuse you out of the blue, that they might in fact be coming from a place of fear in themselves and their behavior is a protective measure on their part. Don't always make it about yourself. Stop to consider what else may be going on beneath the surface and why. Also stop to remember why they are in your life in the first place and that you want them there for a reason.
Tell or show people how important they are to you often, just because, and don't expect the same in return or be hurt if the people around you don't bestow on you the same courtesy and thoughtfulness. Love and respect can't be mandated or scheduled for others by you. Love is, at times, only a silent player much like the wind...some days it's a gale, some days a mere breeze. You can still feel it in every fiber of your being without repeated flashy demonstrations of it's existence. Learn to appreciate all the subtle nuances of it's presence as well. Those nuances are just as precious, sometimes even more memorable.
People love and express love in their own unique, individual ways. None of these ways are perfect, nor can they be judged as right or wrong. Just because someone doesn't love you exactly the way YOU want them to, it doesn't mean they aren't giving you all they are capable of giving. If it's not enough for YOU, it is then your problem, not theirs. Only you can decide to walk away or not at that point. Don't get involved with someone expecting to change them or for them to change for you. Females, as a group, are notorious for this belief. They then wonder why they are always searching for more.
Whether you consider yourself religious, spiritual or a freak of nature that is on this Earth by mere coincidence of atoms colliding...the Good Book still has some common sense rules of humanity to live by. Treat others as you'd like to be treated, don't always envy what someone else has and don't take for granted the good things in your own life..are three of the most important ones to hold close and put into practice. Karma, fate or destiny (whatever you choose to call it) will indeed come full circle if you choose to tempt it too many times. Don't cry over spilt milk and never make the mistake of assuming that getting said milk without ever any commitment to the cow will be without consequences.
Bottom line, growing up is not for the faint of heart, neither is maturity. Courage, responsibility and honor are not givens in your character, but are instead developed in the way you choose to live your life and how you treat others.
Try not to be trivial or sleaze your way through life. Decide to make a difference where you can, while you can. Make your mark on this world instead of being like gum on the bottom of someones shoe.
If these simple common sense concepts are too much for your meager brain to handle or for your corrupt soul to fathom, then trust me...you won't care for much I have to say if you press me or act like a stupid juvenile when you're supposed to be all grown up (in years anyway). Playing dumb or trying to be "cute" all the time without ever being real, wears thin very quickly. Have some substance, purpose and backbone in all that you do, even during play.
~Kath
~The art of living does not consist in preserving and clinging to a particular mode of happiness, but in allowing happiness to change its form without being disappointed the change. Happiness, like a child, must be allowed to grow up.~
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